The winter holidays are upon us. And the advertising arrived in advance, creeping in before Halloween. Even as leaves remain on trees, those of us that practice the tradition of gift-giving are likely preparing to move into full-throttle shopping in the coming weeks.
As a self-described minimalist, gift-giving and receiving can make me uncomfortable. I am constantly trying to reduce my load, live more simply, walk lightly on the Earth, and share my values of simplicity and lived experience with my kids. I’d prefer a family belly laugh over a new gadget any day.
That said, we live in the world, and in American culture gift-giving is a valued tradition. Giving gifts can be an opportunity to express thoughtfulness and love in a way that we usually don’t. And, from personal experience with a generous and thoughtful partner, it is touching to be on the receiving end.
So, how can we participate in the tradition of gift-giving in a simple and meaningful way?
The (somewhat recent) approach for me has been to put my attention on the act of gift-giving. Consider this: The gift is in the giving itself. It is through a meaningful exchange that the giving is complete.
From this angle, giving is in the moment – it is in the exchange itself. When I consider giving in this way, I see that the giving is the gift, and I focus on the shared experience I have with someone I care for.
Here are some ways to make the most of the moment of giving.
Set your intention.
Setting an intention is inclining our mind toward something by consciously choosing it. With giving, we can incline our minds toward compassion and generosity. I remind myself: I am choosing to give to this person I care for. The giving is in the act. Try reminding yourself what is important to you about giving – that is, why you give. Bringing to mind what you appreciate about the recipient only adds to the sentiment.
Pay attention.
When focusing on the giving itself, the two most significant elements are the recipient and the shared experience of giving with them. Ask yourself: What do they value and appreciate? Use this to inspire heartfelt and personalized gifts and a meaningful delivery (In a park? On a shared walk? Topped with a fresh coffee?).
Be present.
Even gift-giving can feel like another to-do on a long list. As someone that often leans into the future, I frequently remind myself to be in the present by mentally whispering This is it. When approaching gift-giving, gently remind yourself that this moment matters. Then enjoy it as it unfolds.
Get creative.
Remember, the experience of giving can be the gift. And it can come in different forms: shared time, an expressed sentiment of caring, or a gift that can be enjoyed together. Rather than a physical gift, consider preparing and enjoying a meal together, delivering a letter of gratitude, or organizing a friend’s space with them (yes, a favorite of mine!).
So, as outside marketing and cultural forces tell us “more is better,” consider that with the gift of intention, less just might be best.
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